Along with the 8 BIG Mistakes, I spoke about how you could avoid them by using skills that you ALREADY possess. Skills that you have expertise in and have used throughout your career creating successful leadership results.
It’s often these very skills that we overlook and take for granted that would, could and SHOULD lead to some of our biggest breakthroughs yet that are lie underrated and largely ignored when it comes to seeking solutions to our health, hormones and happiness challenges yet are abandoned in favor of the untried and untested ideas of others.
Strange, don’t you think?
After all, in business you’ve no doubt created your reputation and value by being someone who requires EVIDENCE of systems and strategies working and yet when it comes to your health you’re happy to ignore all that and instead go on someone’s random musings about this supplement, that pill or this superfood etc.
I get it, I was doing that too. COMPLETELY ignoring what it was that had made me such an authority figure in my career in favor of whatever was becoming popular in magazines and social media.
How about we stop doing that?
Problem Solving Cycle
In your professional career, to solve any problem, you worked through the Problem-Solving Cycle. You may have done it formally, or intuitively, but to be successful at solving any problem you did the following;
Step 1: Identify the problem.
Step 2: Explore possible strategies.
Step 3: Set goals.
Step 4: Look at alternatives.
Step 5: Select a possible solution.
Step 6: Implement a possible solution.
Step 7: Evaluate the result.
Project Management Cycle
In your professional career, to see a project to successful completion, you followed the Project Management Cycle;
Step 1: Initiation
Step 2: Planning
Step 3: Execution
Step 4: Monitoring & Control
Step 5: Closure
You may have used different names for each stage, but in one form or another you used them to see your team through the process of each project you managed.
When you’re addressing your personal challenges, you want to leverage these same principals. How I and my clients use them to achieve goals and overcome challenges, I had to tweak them a bit and combine the two cycles – but they are essentially the same skills you already have.
Step 1: Identify By Awakening Your Senses
Your sensory system is your body’s way of assessing your environments to IDENTIFY if you're safe. When you use your sensory system properly you can identify what robs you of energy, triggers your fears, worry and anxiety and what agitates you physically and/or emotionally. You can also identify what makes you feel safe, comfortable and at ease in the world – what lifts you up and energizes you.
Step 2: Analyze By Knowing Thyself
Not only do you need to know the triggers, but you also must understand how, and why, you respond to triggers. You must accept that your behaviors and beliefs don’t always lead you on the right path, and it’s important to be an objective observer of your actions and thoughts. When you’re able to do this, you can ANALYZE how you are contributing to your challenge and how you can adjust to reach your goals.
Step 3: Plan By Clearing The Way
Before taking action it’s essential you PLAN and you know where you are going, and how. What resources do you need, what milestones to reach, and what series of doable steps can you and will you take.
We all have strengths and weaknesses, and you may need assistance. During this phase, identify where you may need help and where you may find it, so you don’t get stuck when and if the time comes.
Additionally, you want to predict what can go wrong. What can prevent you from following your planned course of action, and what contingencies you need in place.
Step 4: Implement By Taking Skillful Action
You will never see results if you don’t take action and IMPLEMENT your plan, but taking action for action sake can make a problem worse. It basically leads to Trial & Error.
Instead, you want to take skillful action based on what you have learned and what you have planned and prepared for. Knowing what you are doing, how to do it and why can help you to be consistent and committed to the outcome. You will also recognize when something isn’t working the way you expected, and you can tweak without throwing out everything you have done.
Step 5: Evaluate By Remaining At The Center Of Your Universe
This may be the final step, but it’s one that lends itself to all stages of the cycle. You’re constantly identifying, analyzing, planning, implementing and EVALUATING. This is your life and there is never a final destination.
Throughout the process, you want to evaluate and ensure what you are doing is working for you, feels right, energizes you, is doable, etc.
Yes, you have responsibilities and others to think of. However, you must always check in with yourself and be sincere as to what, how and why you are doing, feeling, or thinking. Regardless of how you intellectually believe you are there for others, you are not. We need community, we love and care for others, and at times we would give our lives and sacrifice for others. But at all times, our feelings, thinking and actions are aligned with our beliefs and values.
If your actions, thoughts and feelings are contributing to the problem or challenge you are trying to solve, you must evaluate from the center of your universe and be sincere with yourself. You may not tell the world what’s going on inside, but always be sincere with yourself.
By doing this you will know if what you are doing is working for you or not, and it’s only from that place can you ever achieve success.
If you have insights, questions or just want to learn how you can use your skills to support your efforts to overcome challenges you are facing, come join us over at Designing Oneself. This is a community of women who are leveraging their skills in a powerful way.
Adapt, Be Sincere and Experience Joy,